The Big Fresh September 29, 2018 The "One Thing" Mindset
This year has been a good one for me, and a bad one for a few of my closest friends and family members. They are dealing with serious illness themselves, or struggling to cope with ailing parents. I recently read a quote from Marie Masse that captures what I’ve learned about being a good friend to those in need:
It’s great advice for anyone who is going through a rough day, but it’s even better advice for someone trying to help anyone who is struggling. I don’t ask, “What can I do to help?” If I do, I’ve learned the answer will always be, “Thanks, but I don’t need anything.” Because it’s just more work for someone who is already overwhelmed to figure out what assistance they need. Instead, I try to say something like “I’ve made extra pumpkin soup and I know it’s your favorite. What time would be good for me to drop it off today?” or “I’d like to take your daughter to the movies this weekend so you have a break. What time would be best?” People always appreciate food that can be frozen, or a specific immediate offer of childcare for a few hours so they can have some time to themselves or to tend to an ill parent.
When I talk to literacy coaches, I see that many of them apply the same principle every day to build relationships with stressed-out teachers. Instead of saying, “What can I do to help?” they say, “How about I take your duty today so you have extra time to plan that minilesson we talked about?” or “Could I do the read aloud this morning so you have time to sit back and observe those two boys who have IEPs coming up?” It’s the “one thing” specificity that can immediately make the person who needs help feel energized and better now.
There is always one thing that can heal or help in even the smallest of ways. And when you’re looking for a lifeline, that one tiny bit of support may turn out to be the best gift anyone could have given you that day.
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Christy Rush-Levine emphasizes "reflaction" in her reading conference protocol -- reflection that leads to action for her students:
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